Why does it seem like every time you are nice to a woman, gicing her flowers, buying her dinner, rubbing her feet, even walking her dog - you end up getting the line, “I only want to be friends”? Why is it that nice guys always finish last? Well - here is some news. There are rules in attraction and dating. You could - just maybe - be breaking some of them if your results are less than stellar.

There are rules to every game, and the game of attraction is no different. Each rule is important in itself - break them all and you will fail miserably with women. Learn them all - and you will party like a rock star.

Rule one - attraction is not, actually, a choice. the first time I heard someone say that, I think it was David Deangelo, I was like wow - that is so simple but its so true. You cannot choose who you are attracted to, and neither can a woman. That can be used to your advantage.

The second law of attraction - the attractive people have the pick of the pack. In particular - the hot women. They can almost any man they want, right? They know it. Men tell them! All the time! Beautiful women are approached CONSTANTLY. Every day - several times a day. So try to see this from HER point of view - if she gave her attention to every Chuck Schmuck that wanted it, she could not get through a day. So if you want her attention, you better earn it.

The third law is the one that takes the cake. Attraction does not make sense. Ok - so every girl you have ever been friends with dreams of Prince Charming who will sweep her off her feet, shower her in jewels and flowers, and treat her like a Princess. BUT - who is she dating? The jock with no neck that treats her like she is covered in pigskin. Why? because she is attracted to him, and attraction is not a choice!

The last law - law four - is that status actually does matter. She is not going to be attracted to someone she perceives to be beneath her. She wants the alpha male, not the follower licking his heels.

The thing is - women are on the lookout for the man that sparks that attraction in her. She may not even know what that “thing” is, but I do. That thing that women want is the man to be a real MAN. Not a wuss, not a wimp, not a “nice guy”. That may seem counterintuitive - but let me ask you this - how’s your current game plan working out for you so far?

What can you do to stop the attraction killing behavior? There are a few simple steps you can take to get your cajones back and get the girl. One - stop being NICE to attractive women. No compliments, no pleasing her, no gifts, no crap just to make her like you. As a matter of fact - bust on her a bit. Tell her she is a brat. Tell her she is being bad and you won’t talk to her until she can be nice.

Two - tell an attractive women no at least once every single day. Doesn’t have to be big - but when some hot woman asks you to hand her the newspaper at the coffee shop - tell her no. Of course, you can wait a few minutes while she grabs her jaw off the floor and then give her what she was asking for, but just bust her bubble if you can.

Three - respect YOURSELF and grow a pair, you know what I mean? Remember that you are YOU, and do not put aside your personality, your beliefs or your wants and needs for any woman. Or anyone, for that matter. Respect yourself and you will get respect.