Picture this - you are out having a great time, you meet a GREAT guy who you just click with. The end of the night rolls around, and you exchange phone numbers. And the panic sets in. “Should I call him? WHEN should I call him? How long should I wait for him to call me?”

As a woman you are entitled to certain things. One is the right to change your mind at any given moment. The other is the right to RECEIVE the first call. So let me make that clear. You do NOT make the first call. Men chase - not women.

It’s actually innate - take a look at nature. Who does all the display work to attract a mate? The male. Women let the men display their wares and then pick from the finest. Turn the tables, though, and allow the woman to be the pursuer, and no matter what your intentions, you can come off as needy or worse.

The second reason to let the man be the one to make the first call is “the chase”. If a man has to put NO effort into chasing you, you are totally giving him the advantage. He will know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that he has you where he wants you, and he can call you, see you, or NOT - at his leisure.

But there also another side effect to becoming the pursuer. It will completely KILL the chances of attraction growing, for you AND him. Like it or not, dating is a game at first. It’s a fun game of chase, cowboys and Indians, cat and mouse, whatever you want to call it. But if you lay down and surrender before the game has even begun, do you think he is going to want to play? No.

Thirdly - you are in demand, baby! You need to show him, or let him believe that you are in demand, you are a sought after item and you are not going to be on the shelf for long! Do not, under any circumstance, let him think that you are sitting by the phone eagerly awaiting his call.

Want to take it a step further? The first time he calls - PRETEND you are not sitting by the phone waiting - and let him get your voicemail. And yes, you can listen to it right away, but give it a few hours before you return his call. After all - you are a busy, in demand woman!

The fourth reason to wait for the man to call is simple. Security. If, for the first month you are going out, he is always the one calling for the date - you will KNOW that he wants you. You will know that he is interested in YOU and thinking of you. You won’t have to wonder if he is just being polite, killing time, or whatever. Security in yourself will breed attraction, as well, and he will see it, and he will like it!

As a woman, you should always let the man do the calling at the beginning of the relationship. So the next time you get that phone number - snuggle it, kiss it, tape it to your fridge, but do NOT place that call. Let him be the man and do the chasing. You will feel better for letting him!